December 31, 2015
The bustle is over; gift wrap discarded; toys are played with; presents admired. Even leftovers are tucked snuggly in Tupperware to be eaten while fond memories are rekindled over turkey sandwiches. As the New Year approaches with each tasty bite, thoughts of resolutions begin to filter through blissful recollections. Let’s see…exercise, eat healthy and renounce bad habits (like smoking) are usually the top three.
This year, consider this… Since life is slowly returning to normal anyway, why not start the year off with a new normal? The old normal being: you continue to do things the way you’ve always done them. You continue treating people the way you’ve always treated them. You continue to procrastinate about everything. You continue to relive past hurts and guilt, except, of course, when you’re worrying about the future. You continue getting angry over same s**t, different day stuff. The fact is…a New Year usually means you’ll simply continue your old ‘normal’ behavior. Sound familiar?
Then ask yourself…what does the title of this column ‘be extraordinary’ mean to you? Extraordinary is as awesome a word as its definition. To be extraordinary is to go above and beyond by becoming exceptional in character. Wow, exceptional in character. Sounds awesome, right? Even more awesome just imagine if ‘exceptional in character’ was on everyone’s New Year’s resolution list and achieved. Well, it’s certainly not difficult to imagine what an amazing world this would be if everyone endeavored to go above and beyond to become extraordinary. Makes my heart smile thinking about a world of extraordinary people, does yours?
To become extraordinary is to abandon negative (dysfunctional) behaviors and adopt healthy (functioning) and happy ones. Shine bright like a beacon in this world where darkened hearts and discord are sadly becoming the norm. Yes, unfortunately, anger and hatefulness are too easy. However, it takes a truly exceptional person to rise above the clouds where the sun always shines and be extraordinary. Start sowing the seeds of extraordinary with love and forgiveness. Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Then view others through extraordinary eyes and see the best in them, reaching out with love and forgiveness also. This releases you from past hurts and guilt lifting you out of the abyss of old normal. Besides, living in the present moment is the hallmark of being extraordinary.
In fact, extraordinary people love everything about life living fully in every glorious moment! Enjoying the rain as well as the heat; realizing both are as necessary as bees to pollen. No pretense either, simply unadulterated joy at being alive. Bliss, obviously flowing from an endless reservoir of sincere gratitude for being alive, making a difference, going above and beyond, all without any approval necessary. Extraordinary people simply aren’t approval seekers. They have an intense attitude of gratitude, which is outwardly focused, not ‘all about me.’
Extraordinary people also don’t give complaining a front row seat. Neither do they assign blame, judge or find fault. The exceptional character in us doesn’t have time to gossip or criticize. On the contrary, being extraordinary enhances the well-being of others, without prejudice; reaching out to everyone with respect, praise and admiration, loving everyone unconditionally regardless of preconceived labels. Be elated about someone else’s gain instead of comparing it to your own self-worth; no room for self-pity or self-loathing when you’re being extraordinary. Respecting what you don’t believe in is a huge step in being exceptional in character. Respecting yourself is extraordinarily priceless.
Begin sowing extraordinary seeds in the fertile ground of love and forgiveness and a ‘new normal’ will flourish…a new normal which is simply you being extraordinary!
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!! Love, hugs and smiles…
Can you imagine…a world full of extraordinary people?