January 7, 2016
Ever feel like giving up, throwing in the towel, calling it quits, slashing the other three tires because you got a flat, tossing the baby out with the bath water, quitting before you get ahead, taking a long walk off a short pier, letting the…? Never mind, you get the picture. You know…it occurred to me that our gift list of things we ‘want’ is longer than our resolution list of things we ‘need’ to resolve. Well, in that light I say let’s just simply give up. No list, no resolutions, just hollering uncle. Yep, start ruminating ‘giving up’ as your new dictum for 2016.
Meaning…you’re officially giving yourself permission to go “cold turkey”. Yes, out with the old and in with the new! Starting today you’re giving up talking too much (mostly about yourself and blah, blah, blah) and you’re going to start listening. Listen to your spouse, life partner, your children (or a child). Listen to your co-workers, to people you meet everywhere you go. Then when you’re done listening to others for a change, sit some place quiet and listen to the silence. You’d be amazed at how enjoyable life is when you give up talking too much and start listening.
Next, give up the need to be right all the time. This selfish quirk has strong ties to talking too much since you spend enormous amounts of energy trying to convince everyone (including yourself) you’re right. Somehow along the road in life you missed a huge life lesson…accountability for not being perfect. No worries, lucky for us the school of life is always in session. Your homework is simple: apologize and admit you’re wrong. Admit you’ve messed up. Admit you have faults. Give up the need to be right and you’ll gain a healthy dose of self-respectable accountability. Not to mention the respect of others.
If at first you don’t succeed, keep trying by giving up using anger as a first responder. Seriously, anger should be used as a last resort only (if at all) and with extreme caution.
Anger’s not a team player and would serve better to remain a bench warmer. Besides, there are so many other emotions to choose from. Disappointment for example, or simply choose no response at all. Harder, but worth every precious moment of happiness not lost to a temper tantrum.
Which brings to mind…immediately start giving up all negativity beginning with the internal dialogue of self-decrepitating thoughts. Consider this: no one deserves belittlement just because, or reprimanding for no wrongdoing. Then why do it yourself? Negativity is so last year; strive to be positive about everything from now on. Oh, and that includes giving up negative people. They’ll just drag you down, steal your energy and create chaos, drama and stress. So toss all negative nellies to the curb and cloak yourself in positivity! Suddenly the amazingly wonderful world we live in will blossom before your eyes when you start giving up your direct connection to the dark side. Besides, positive thinking is practically a superpower!
Giving up the things in life that are holding you back from enjoying each moment of every day to the fullest is the best thing you can do for yourself. Unfortunately, there are so many things to give up the list can be such a long one you might want to sit down and start writing. Forget the usual suspects: diet and exercise. We’ve all discovered those self-destruct by the end of January; if they even have the will to live that long.
However, the will to live a joyful, happy, stress free life is stronger than a few extra pounds. So start giving up! Give up complaining. Give up the need to blame others. Give up the need to be in control. Give up using excuses. Give up the need to criticize. Give up gossip. Give up your fears. Give up your self-righteousness. Give up hating. Give up nagging. Give up reliving the past. Give up worry. Give up guilt. Give up saying, “I can’t, I don’t, I won’t.”
In fact, start giving up all things which don’t bring joy, love, respect and peace into your life and the lives of those you touch and your gains will be ten-fold. Gratitude. Respect. Appreciation. Accountability. Self-worth. Self-love.
Can you imagine…the last time you hollered uncle?!
Smile, it looks soooo good on you!