March 10, 2016
If you had the chance to put something in a Time Capsule to tell yourself years from now, what advice would you give? Correct me if I’m wrong but I doubt it would be to eat more veggies, get eight hours sleep, or drink 8 glasses of water a day. No, you’d probably look back at your past and come up with something you’d like to see yourself not repeat in the future, which hasn’t happened yet, only we’re speaking from the past so it has, therefore you already know what to warn yourself about so it doesn’t become your future again thus sparing yourself the aggravation of reliving what you’ve been living ever since you made the decision to do whatever it is that you’d warn your future self not to do again. Am I right?
Therefore, what I’m really hearing you say is...the dickens with the future, you wish you’d had a Time Capsule...say in high school...so you could go back and warn yourself about something you did, during, or definitely since then, to prevent making the mistake in the first place then your life would have, could have, should have been different and you wouldn’t have, couldn’t have or shouldn’t have had to deal with all the perceived wrongs in your life up to this point. Whew!
Hey, I’m not talking the crazy, embarrassing stuff like wearing too tight jeans, commando style, to the school dance and bending over...spliiiit! as your adolescent pimpled posterior was shamelessly exposed for everyone’s enjoyment. Still being teased about that one at the reunions, right? Hopefully you learned to bring a jacket along in case history repeated itself. Also I’m not referring to the time mom fixed you up on the disaster date of the century making the movie “Blind Date” seem like holding hands and skipping though the park on a sunny day singing “I will always love you.” However, kudos for you learning to perform do-it-yourself root canals in case mom got jiggy again about wanting grandchildren while she was still young enough to enjoy them. Oh yeah, and at least the college frat party taught you to keep an attorney on retainer. Lesson learned.
Well, enough reminiscing for kicks and giggles, honestly, for all the ‘bad’ we feel has happened in our past I’d venture to say something ‘good’ came from it. Allow me to share something with you I heard years ago which impacted me then and still does today. It was the story of a farmer who kept having incidents happen in his life and folks would say, “Oh, that’s bad!” and he’d say, “No, it’s good...” and go on to explain why. Like when his son fell off a horse and broke his leg. “Oh, that’s bad!” “No, it’s good because he didn’t have to go to battle when the war started.” And on and on with the farmer’s reply always being, “No, it’s good...”
You see, if we consider our past we’d realize the events themselves aren’t good or bad, it’s our perception of the event. That being said most all of us still desire to change at least one thing from our past. Yet, wishing for a different ‘now’ based on a previous ‘past’ only leads to regret. Therefore, in the wisdom of your own life’s experience consider this for your proverbial Time Capsule. Really, nothing more than a note to yourself to keep in a safe place and read once a month or more often.
“Laugh more. Relax more. Take more vacations. Take more pictures. Remember birthdays and anniversaries. Enjoy sunsets. Sleep in occasionally. Speak softly sometimes. Smile often. Compliment everyone. Apologize more. It’s only spilled milk. It’s only a little mud. No worries. Wake up early and enjoy the sunrise. Slow down. Get my toes in the sand. Take a hike. Count stars. Watch clouds float by. Have a picnic. Don’t save anything for a special day...every day is special. No regrets. Live in the moment. Be grateful. Be humble. Be kind. Be happy. Love deeply. Breathe. Follow my bliss.”
Can you imagine…everything in your life being a ‘good’ thing?!
Smile, it looks sooo good on you!