Sea Of Love
February 9, 2017
It’s true, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Which also happens to be the moniker for a leading dating site if you’re looking for love this Valentine’s Day.
In 1995, Match launched the first online sight designed to bring people together who otherwise would never meet by happenstance. Awesome idea! While meeting and falling in love started centuries ago with Adam and Eve, desiring to love, and be loved, certainly isn’t a new concept. Thus, a slight change in scenery from meeting under the apple tree (we all know how that went), to arranged marriages, to blind dates, to waking up next to someone the morning after…um…yea, let’s not go there. Besides, that was so college years.
Currently, however, the novelty of online dating attracts over 40 million people each year who find love at the tip of their fingers. Wowzer! That’s over 10% of the US population. Double wowzer!! Now, if we compare that to the Bar and Nightclub industry statistics for number of drinks sold in one month…50 million plus…it’s obvious drinking, meeting and dating have dissolved a long-standing collaboration since online dating has practically become the norm for meeting a serious, potential love interest. With over 2,500 dating sites available to choose from today tailored to a plethora of personal tastes and preferences. Such as: Single parents, farmers, bikers, Christians, mature adults, professionals, date a millionaire and a ba-zillion more profile possibilities.
I’m not ashamed to admit, I’ve tried a few over the years. (For research purposes, of course.) The most exciting was ‘date a cowboy.’ Dickens, I met a cowboy from South Carolina who owned a horse farm. Wowzer, I’ve always wanted to own a horse farm! Shoot fire, I’ve always wanted to own a horse! Some of you might remember my column about going horseback riding and feeling like popcorn in the saddle. That was some serious bouncing around. And hilariously funny! It was a blast though. Even if it was just an afternoon of riding.
Researched another site once and met a man 6’9” tall. I can honestly say he was the tallest man with whom I’ve enjoyed a meal. Can’t say ever met, because I talked to someone sooo not vertically challenged while dancing one night. Looking up, I said, “So, that’s what six nine looks like.” Then I asked if he danced. What can I say? When I’m dancing, I’m focused on dancing.
Yet the anonymity of joining a dating site allows the blinders to come off. Yeppers, in the comfort of your own home, while chill-laxing in your PJ’s, munching on comfy crunchy food, you can while away the hours chatting (some may even be bold enough to flirt) with whomever trips your trigger. For me it’s: tall, loves country music (disco is a plus), and loves to dance (major plus). After which, I dig into the real nuts and bolts of a relationship like: fishing, beach vs. mountains, and if they own their own power tools, or will they want to borrow mine. Yep, it’s the fine tuning that makes or breaks a successful online match.
In fact, I’ve decided to do a little research again to see if anything has changed in the wonderful world of ‘getting to know you.’ After only two minutes, I had two messages, one wants to meet and a very handsome biker cruised my (unfinished) profile. Sigh, there’s just something about a man with a hog between his legs that’s as appealing as a cowboy on a horse. Hmmm…is it getting warm in here?
Anyway, a word of caution to anyone joining the 10% opting for tantalizing techy together-forever-ness. First, take a deep breath…don’t appear desperate. True love is not a race. (Unless you’re trying to find a date for this weekend. Then by all means…research the best site for you and get started. Difference sites offer different results.) Next, be honest…you must post a picture of yourself, not one you find online. Candid shots are best. Although, I think selfies in the mirror are endearing. Ladies, be especially careful and do not allow someone to come to your home to pick you up - meet them elsewhere. Third, have fun, enjoy meeting new friends and be open to the possibility of a digital love connection. If you’re looking for a relationship, I wish you the best. If you’re in one, I wish you the best also. Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! Love, hugs and smiles…
Can you imagine…your perfect match?!