September 25, 2014
Dickens, I’ve been doing some major cleaning this past week. It all started when I threw two towels on the kitchen floor and prepared to scrub away ten years of paw prints, grease and paint splatters. Just kidding it wasn’t ten years. Maybe ten months..give or take a few. Still you could probably eat off my floors if you have a palate for fur balls. On second thought you’d better eat off my mom’s floor because in my house I follow the ‘5 second’ rule.
Anyway, I got so excited at how shiny the kitchen floor turned out I headed straight to the bathroom. No! Not because I had to...you know...I just wanted it shiny too. But after picking up the rug I thought, “Dang, this new floor is already turning!” because I could see where the rug had been. So down on my knees I went. Yep, nothing says clean like a good ol’ fashion elbow grease. As I scrubbed the color returned to normal but I really had to get through the “Yuck!”
Scouring the layers away it occurred to me how life is like a dirty floor. Often times we’re unable to identify the muck that sticks to us or where it came from yet it builds up like dirt on a floor. A splatter of hatred here a dribble of jealousy there. Yet with everything in place, job, home, relationships...things appear fine. In fact, our life can ‘look’ pretty darn good to others. But start picking up the rugs, like circumstances changing in our lives, and the areas of discontent become visible.
As I scrubbed a mass of brown unrecognizable mush appeared on the sponge and my mind wandered; so much like life to be confounded by our uncharacteristic behavior I mused. Obviously one or more incidents in our past left behind the muddy imprint of anger and bitterness which stuck for all these years putting our outbursts on autopilot. Does everyone get angry? Maybe not everyone, but it’s probably safe to say that something trips just about anyone’s trigger. Why? Too individualized to say because everyone’s past is different.
However, the point is, anger should never be a first response. Therefore, only you can decide if you’re losing your temper often. In my opinion daily, weekly, or even monthly is often. No joke. In other words, if a trigger is causing you to explode in a fit of temper often it’s time to examine the mud that’s been sloshed on your floor. Like layers of muck on a dirty floor anger didn’t happen overnight. Discovering what the grime is and where it came from can be the hard part for most folks because it probably stems from an event that happened while very young. Research states our personalities are fairly set by the time we’re five thus why it’s hard to pinpoint a particular event. We were just too young. Perhaps something your mom did? Or something your father said? A sibling? Relative? Teacher?
The questions for you to answer are: Is muck from my past is still controlling my less than desirable behavior? Am I carrying grime around like a protective shield? If the answers are ‘yes’ please realize it’s not a shield. It’s old disappointment, hurt feelings and unkind words spoken to us as children. Unfortunately we may never identify the source of the splatter. Ah...but we’re adults, not children. Now is the time to recognize what current circumstances trigger a negative response and clean up our reaction. Come on, let’s apply some elbow grease and wash dingy grime down the drain. It’s time for a positive new attitude!
That’s right, it’s time to polish our wonderful and amazing true self and let it come shining through. The self we were born to be. Happy and joyful with a shiny surface which resists the muck of events that once tripped our trigger because now a splatter of anger or a drop of bitterness won’t stick. Baby, we’ve got our shine on!
Can you imagine...a non-stick you?