My Other Sock
February 26, 2015
Have you ever wondered where all missing socks go? Socks certainly have a knack for being devoured in the washing machine. Two go in but only one comes out. Where it goes...nobody knows. Yet, a few weeks ago I watched a movie in which an older man told his son not to live “half a life.” It occurred to me living half a life is like wearing the surviving sock; and none of us would dare wear just one. However, so many of us are living half a life. Why? Fear?
Fear comes in many forms. Fear of the unknown...afraid to take a leap of faith. Fear of what others may think...afraid to be our self. However, the biggest fear that holds so many of us back is the fear of failure. And that, my friends, is failure.
So why are so many of us wearing just one sock? Because change is hard. Walking away is hard. Taking the first step is hard. Throw as many clichés as you want into the washer and see which ones survive. It won’t matter because the truth is we love our comfort zone so much we say, “Who needs two socks.” Content instead to trudge along wearing one sock and living half a life because it feels like the life of least resistance.
It’s true most of us prefer the easy road. Not the uphill climb, which, from our current viewpoint...one sock on, one sock missing in action...looks like Mt. Everest. Therefore, we take the scenic ‘half a life’ route because everything appears (on the surface) so tranquil we don’t need to stray from our comfort zone. Sounds wonderful but we’re not happy.
We’re not happy because we always thought we’d grow up and do something else. We fantasized about it when we were kids. We grew up telling our friends and family how bright our future looked. We wrote book reports in school about achieving our dream. So what happened? Somewhere along the way the washing machine ate one of our socks and we convinced ourselves the dream was unattainable. Why didn’t we just get another pair of socks?
Instead, we go through the motions doing what we have to do to pay the bills and eat. We don’t challenge ourselves like we did when we were kids. Remember as kids that tree we wanted to climb never looked too big? Or, that creek we wanted to cross never seemed too wide. If fact, we were never convinced we couldn’t do it. We just did it.
As we grew up though, we started creating mountains out of pebbles and doubting our capabilities. Not in question as a child. Oddly enough, now that we’re adults trees appear smaller, creeks shrunk to half their size. Unfortunately, so did our determination to be, do and have all the things we dreamt about. So what driving force turned us away, made us give up, check out? Or worse, settle for living half a life wearing only one sock.
I know what you’re thinking: a creek is not going back to college (as an adult). A tree is not selling everything and relocating. Or is it? If you allow yourself to believe you can BE, DO and HAVE whatever you want it can be that simple. It’s up to you to stop settling on living half a life and instead take life by the horns, abandon fear, and just do it!
How? I can’t tell you how; it solely depends on why you’re afraid. Conquer your fear and suddenly Mt. Everest becomes a pebble again, easily stepped over on your journey toward living a full life. Don’t be afraid. More importantly, don’t go through life wearing just one sock. Embrace your desires, talents, dreams; because living life to the fullest is closer to whom you really are than living half a life.
Now look down at your feet and tell yourself: “I will never wear just one sock. I will never live half a life. I am not afraid to reduce mountains to pebbles. I have no fear. I HAVE FOUND MY OTHER SOCK!”
Can you imagine...reducing mountains to pebbles?
Smile you’ve got two socks.