February 11, 2016
“Love hurts! Love scars! Love wounds and mars! Any heart not tough or strong enough to take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain. Love is like a cloud, holds a lot of rain. Love hurts, ooh-ooh love hurts!”... “Some fools think of happiness, blissfulness, togetherness. Some fools fool themselves I guess, they’re not foolin’ me! I know it isn’t true, I know it isn’t true. Love is just a lie, made to make you blue. Love hurts......ooh, ooh love hurts ooh, ooh love hurts!” (Excerpts from: Love Hurts, off the 1975 album Hair of the Dog, by the British rock band Nazareth).
Hmm, so love is painful, detrimental, depressing and delusional. Well...that pretty much covers everything that needs to be said on the subjects of love, romance and Valentines. So that’s a wrap and we’ll see ya next week. With an inspiring story of something inspirational. I welcome almost all questions and comments via FOCUS, or E-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Hope to hear from you, until then try and stay focused. See ya!
What? What do you mean, not enough? Well my heart couldn’t take the pain, couldn’t take the pain. It wasn’t tough or strong enou... OK, fine, fine, fine, stupid lovey-dovey bulls***. Happy VD everybody! And after your trip to the clinic to get that checked out (and hopefully cleared up) hopefully you’ll have a romantic, heart filled weekend with your one and only, only one. St. Valentine’s Day has arrived, the perfect occasion for confessions and professions of love. Young lovers will find one another and share a beautiful moment, hand in hand. Or face devastating rejection and find their way to the bottom of a bottle in a dark room alone. Ah, young love (not in the sense of age, but like new).
You see someone across the way and nervously make that first initial contact. Phone numbers are exchanged and you chat endless throughout the night. Then he asks her out. Ooooh the first date, filled with embarrassing memories that hopefully lead to a second. Each encounter leads to lingering longer and the goodbyes grow and are filled with sincere heartache. Soon the two are virtually inseparable as the garden is continuously tended and blossoms into the truest love.
Oh, the nostalgia of what was once the stuff of romance novels and reality. Now courtesy of social media, we have the fly-by-night insta-romances of the modern era.
You “friend” someone on Facebook. You chat and exchange pics until you’re both smoldering powder kegs of hormone driven desire. You hook up. This usually takes about a week and is much faster than the old school courting of yesteryear. Either way, you’ve found each other in this big crazy world. You’ve fallen in love and there’s nothing wrong with that. Unless you’re a player, then it’s all just a sick game to get booty because you don’t possess enough intellect to think beyond the reach of your crotch.
But you’re not playing, this is the real thing and...now what. Beyond the dating, moving in together, the nesting, breeding, and once the honeymoon is over (because whether you’re ever married or not, the metaphorical “honeymoon” will eventually be over)...what now? It’s so easy to fall in love and the “getting to know you” portion of a budding romance is always fun. The loving is consistently continuous, seemingly endless. But after a while it’s not enough... just love is not enough.
For a love to survive the test of time, a couple must understand that the testing is constant and endless. There will never be a point where you can put your hearts in the out box of life saying, “There, that’s taken care of.” We are not going to reference the “love is like a garden that needs constant tending thing” but the truth is love is hard and painful and takes a lot of work and attention...just...like...a...garden. Damn it!
So, what is the secret? How do you make love last? If you ask those cute older couples that you wanna be just like someday, you’ll always get a different answer. Personally, I don’t know, I’m still working on it (Happy Valentine’s Day Lil Red you are still my heart’s own desire) see, still working on it. However, I do know this: you’ll know if your love can stand the test of time when the time comes and when you put down your pencil, it’s over. (That’s an SAT testing reference for all you players who are like, “What’s a pencil?”)
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Hope to hear from ya, until then try and stay focused. See ya!