Romantic Interlude Eluded
February 9, 2017
“Look into my eyes; you will see, what you mean to me. Search your heart, search your soul and when you find me there, you’ll search no more. Oh you can’t tell me it’s not worth tryin’ for
I can’t help it there’s nothin’ I want more!”- - - “Yeah, I would fight for you…I’d lie for you…walk the wire for you… yeah, I’d die… for… you! You know it’s true, everything I do, oh I do it for you.” Excerpted lyrics from “Everything I Do” from the album Waking Up the Neighbors by Canadian singer-songwriter Bryan Adams, 1991.
If you were a young man in the ‘90s you could make your girl swoon by belting out the lyrics to that now classic love ballad. If you could actually sing, while pulling her in for a close dance and making eye contact at pivotal moments you could melt her heart, soothe her soul…and just about insure some horizontal tango action. What? Yeah that seems a little crude but let’s be honest— what were your true intentions? A chocolate shake with two straws down at the malt shop? When love is young and new it’s all about the physical attraction, i.e., nobody ever crossed a room to talk to someone they found repulsive. At this stage the day of Valentines is feared… too great a show of affection may mean… gasp… commitment!
With the passage of time emotions become involved and it evolves into a relationship. The romance becomes real as goals extend and exceed beyond the bedroom or backseat. You sing the song again but this time, you mean it and have no ulterior motive. Other than letting her know your heart is hers… Awww! Valentines is a welcome event happily celebrated as gifts of flowers, cards and candy boxes become the norm. Not to mention a zoo-full of critters, holding hearts, with expressions of love printed there-on.
Once you pass the stuffie stage things get serious. So now you’re a couple (a couple of what—I don’t know—waka waka). Somebody’s moving in and you’re either shacking up for the long haul or taking the plunge. For the first few years (if it lasts) the romance flows and you’re high on love-life. You reserve the song for candlelit occasions in the comfort of your own home. St. Valentines becomes a time for sneaky in-home surprises, surprise visits at work, surprise nights out. Then one day much to your surprise you just don’t feel as surprising anymore… surprise!
The love is still there but the life it grew from has changed. Romance has become buried under household chores, 2 kids, a mortgage and time… or lack thereof. Valentine’s Day once again becomes a thing of dread. You’ve done everything: flowers (which die), candy in heart shaped boxes (that gets thrown out after a month in the fridge) and gawd forbid you bring another giant stuffed bear in this house. You’ve exercised every romantic outlet in your repertoire. You still remember the song but can’t find the melody, can’t catch the beat and the feeling behind it.
So this is it. This is life with all the luster of romantic notions washed away. Every V-Day becomes a chore; an exercise in fond reminisces. Well it’s better to have loved and lost as opposed to never having loved at all, right? Or perhaps…maybe… it’s time to rewrite the song. To find and redefine the romance that still resides in your heart, put a beat to it and realize your love isn’t lost… it’s just different. And so I dedicate this rewriting and rewording of that classic love ballad to my beloved spouse and BBFF Lil Red… ahem…
“Look into my eyes, you will see, what you mean to me. I pay the bills, you pay some too and first of the month the rent’s still due!”
“Don’t tell me not to play tuba indoors! Keep your dog off my freshly mopped floors!
He might make a poo…but I love him too. I do it for you.”
“Look into your heart, you will find—I’m out of my mind! You took me as I am; changed my life
Despite myself you became my wife.”
“Don’t worry I took care of the chores. I did the laundry but there’ll always be more. You know it’s true. I did the dishes too. I do it for you!”
“There’s no love, like your love. And no other could give more love. Unless Tot’s there, out of nowhere, so we’re a family… all the way, yeah!” (musical interlude)
“Oh you’re what my heart was made for. Every day I love you more and more. Yeah, I would fight for you, kill spiders too. Always be true, grow old and die with you.”
“You heard what I said, I love you little Red oh… oh I still do!”
Happy Valentines to all young lovers and too those who still find romance in everything life throws your way.
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